Question to the BDSM Community at large

This is a post that I found on one of the BDSM Dating websites. I just want to know are there really any woment out there that fall for this drool? I understand the heart of a slave. I understand completely your need to be protected owned and coveted as a treasure better than most. I know how easy it is to fall for the good looking leather daddy and throw all your safety precautions out the window and participate in dangerous forms of play before asking educated questions (I am recently guilty). I know how enticing it is to want to be the center of attention and as a woman provide those wonderous things to a master 24/7.

I am Gorean styled Daddy/Master looking for an unspoiled slave. one broken to her collar that desires and begs for a chains, while still being new enough that you haven't been taught all kinds of bad habits. a girl I can separate from her prior life and make a total slave.
this will be a 24/7 slavery I'd expect to last at least five years if not lifetime with Me.

slave training can be hard on you. you will be in near isolation for the first six months as I whip train you to be My slave. You will live in a slave's room on a diet of slave gruel and earned rewards and may be kenneled in the slave's room on occasion.

a slave learns vulnerability in bondage. expect to start with less time until your muscles are more conditioned, but I would like to work you up to three hour bondage sesions that involve sensory deprivation, moderate to heavy pain and multiple penetration. I do have a sadistic streak and don't want that to surprise you later.

I am forty-three, birthday was last october, six foot green eyed attorney type fit - fitness is important for Masters too ya know. I've attached a photo of Myself and an example of bondage/kneeling training to give an idea of who and what to expect here.

My concern about posts like the example above is the general attitude that is sometimes present with older Dominants (fem and male) that I am master, you will do as Mistress says without question, do not question me, my say is absolute. I have acutally met a Master who has said that "my fat bitch will not eat but an apple a day until she looses 5 pounds". I watched this girl loose 60 pounds over the course of six weeks. The man in the post states that his training is not easy... I would like to add here that I do not know this man, he may be much easier on his girls in person, however, it is the advertisement of this mindset that breeds acceptance of such actions. My fear is that the more that new players see these attitudes in writing the more they will accept them in person.

I would also like to post here that I am not trying to be the play police, I am not saying that running a gorean household is wrong, that doing as daddy says without question is stupid, that allowing Mistress to cane you for not putting the toilet seat down is wrong. What I am saying is that in either Risk Aware play or SSC play the key words are Awareness and Consent. BOTH Parties should be fully aware of each and every consequence (or as many as can be thought of) of all their actions.

If a young girl plays with a 50 year old male with a signal whip or quirt or cane, does she realize that that it might scar her 18 year old body, even if he doesnt mean to? Does she KNOW that, has he explained it? Does the girl allowing the Master (I have recently been this girl and guilty of this exact situation) to place needles in her breasts have the education to use proper PPE to keep them both safe? (I didnt know him, had never seen him play and he was from out of town. However I did know enough to watch his precautions and make informed decisions) Does she understand that she will have marks and bruising(yes i did, and yes he explained this to me). Did she understand that there is a possibility of disease transmission SHOULD they exchange blood in the case of an accident (yes i did, did i ask to see a clean bill of health, no. I allowed play to continue based on several methods of PPE and Prep that showed me the two men I was playing with were educated. Risk Aware Consentual Kink - I was aware of the risks associated with needle play with strangers).


How do we as a responsible community make sure that the new players no matter of age, race, religion, color, creed, sexual orientation or level of participation get out the word that there is a need to be educated about play. That one must understand and take upon themselves their own responsibility and safety above and beyond that which any Master, Mistress, Dom/me or Trainer could ever provide? How can we as a community impress that ultimately at the end of the day every action and consequence is only one persons responsibility or fault. And that it is only when one understands these things for themselves that they can then entrust another with those things safely?

Pinches and spanks pets. Till next we meet dark dreams.

Miss Vonn
www.missvonn.com